Is my fetish normal? 7 things you need to know

It can be difficult to bring up your sexual fetish with a new partner, and that’s partially because of a massive misunderstanding about fetishes in general. A lot of us don’t understand our fetishes – and that lack of understanding can lead to shame. 

But there’s no need to feel that way. Firstly, you don’t choose your fetish. And secondly, they’re really common.

Here’s what else you should know about sexual fetishes.

It doesn’t have to do with gender

Some think that fetishes – especially BDSM – can only go one way. It’s not true at all, women can be Dommes and men can be subs. And when it comes to trying it, the Journal Of Sex Research study found that levels of fetishism and masochism are not drastically different between men and women, reports The Independent.

You’re allowed to talk to your partner about it

If you’re interested in trying out a sexual fetish with your partner, you might be nervous about how they’ll react. But if you’re in a supportive, healthy relationship then your partner is going to want for you to be sexually satisfied. Talking about sex should be a fun bonding experience, not a scary one.

They’re allowed to say no, and it’s not personal

That being said, although your partner will want you to get what you need, they shouldn’t do anything they’re not comfortable with. So if they say no, try not to take it personally. One of my friends was telling me how his boyfriend is really into water sports and after hearing some of the stuff he described, I realised that if my partner suggested it, I would probably have to let them down. It has nothing to do with the person – it’s more about how you feel about trying out the act.

You can always log on

If you’re single and looking to try something a bit kinkier, there’s likely an online platform for you. The Internet has everything. From fetish sites like to message boards where you can learn more about your fetish, it’s an amazing resource.

Your partner may be trying to tell you about one, too

Remember how many people were interested or had tried out a fetish? It’s not weird at all. You might notice your partner hinting at wanting to try something new. Maybe you both want to experiment in the same way, but neither of you are brave enough to just say it explicitly. Be brave and ask!

There’s probably nothing too specific

I know that you hear about leather, BDSM, and foot fetishes all the time, but there is seriously nothing too niche. If your thing is being spanked while dressed like a Care Bear and covered in kimchi, there’s something out there for you. Find your people.

Some are more common than you might think

It’s not all Fifty Shades of Grey when it comes to fetishes. The Great British Sex Survey of over 2 000 people found that cross-dressing and foot fetishes fell in the top 10 most common fetishes, as did water sports. So seriously, no need to worry about whether or not you’re ‘normal’.

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